"twitterpated" is pretty much the coolest word ever.
But LOVE is definitely the best thing ever.
I didn't immediately fall head over heels for Ted.
No...at first I thought he was too short for me.
{shallow? Yes.}
And, at the time...he was shorter than me.
Good thing puberty kicks in eventually with boys.
{He is now ONE inch taller than I. Flats are my BFF}
Anyway, what I'm saying is, I wasn't struck by a lightening bolt.
I wasn't flung 10 feet in the air with love.
I didn't keel over with love-pain, while birds flew around my head.
I did however...think he was cute.
And muscular {very yes}.
However, after we started dating, I knew he was right for me.
He and I just...fit.
And we have been together ever since.
Here we are at my senior Winter Formal:
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{thanks mom for sewing the dress!}
While Ted was on his mission, I dated other people.
And it was a good thing I did.
I learned that there are many people in this world that would be great together.
But I also learned that Ted was the perfect match for me.
We believe that Heavenly Father brought us together...
He could have gone to a different high school...but he chose Westwood. {same as me}
I didn't have to change my schedule my sophomore year, but I did {leading me to the same class as Ted...where we met}.
etc...etc...etc...
However,I also believe if we hadn't gotten married, there would have been someone else out there to make us happy.
But this happy?
No way :)
I love my The Tedward.
So here are my questions for you...
1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
2. Do you believe there is only one right person out there for everyone?
Ready...Set....GO!
Thanks to Alice for submitting this week's question!
96 awesomespice comments:
This is always a tough question! I don't believe that there is love at first sight. But there can be SOMETHING at first sight. A lot of times it's just usually attraction. But there has been one time in my life where I just felt like I HAD to meet someone. I didn't even know why, after I met him I noticed he was attractive, but it was some weird force that made me talk to him. Through this relationship I realized that there isn't just ONE person for everyone, but I feel like there are people out there who are just meant to be in your life. I still believe this person was my "twin soul" I like to call him. We always knew what the other was thinking and what the other was going to say, even after not seeing each other for months. We always wanted to date but it never seemed to work. I've never met anyone like him, and probably never will. Back on track though!
1. Not technically LOVE at first sight, no. But something at first sight, yes.
2. I think everyone has someone out there who is perfect for them. But do they always end up with them? No. So what do you do, you work at your relationships to make them what you want them to be. If your lucky enough to find someone who can finish your sentences, then you are very blessed!
I believe in the old "lust at first sight" cliche. I felt an instant attraction to Adam, but love takes time.
Love at first sight? I don't know if it should be called love, but I do believe you can experience some kind of connection with someone almost immediately(it happened to me). But yes, reall love develops and strengthens over time.
As for if there is one right person for everyone? I think you said it pretty well. I believe there are probably several people who you could be happy with, but some more so than others. I think you will find your best connection by following the promptings of the spirit-that's how I got my husband!
I don't believe there is love at first sight.. But I think a person can definitely fall in love quickly through loads of conversations.
BF and I had met years ago, but he was dating someone else and I was into someone else.
Then, years later (like 7) we started chatting on facebook (I know, weird, right?). And then started emailing. And the emails were so fantastic (and witty!) that I turned around and told my co-worker that I thought I was in love! Based on how funny his emails were and how alike I thought we were.
Turns out, I was right! We are perfect for each other.
I think if I had to choose (and I did) between lightning bolts and real, undying love, I'd pick the latter.
I knew Mr. O was the man for me even though it wasn't "all ye olde lightning bolts, ALL the time." We love each other and we are there for each other through the good and the bad.
The guys that give lightning bolts tend to be there for the zing-zing if you know what I mean. And sometimes it is hard for them to keep their lightning bolts just for you.
Love the story! Thanks for sharing that. I'm very glad you two were brought together.
I do believe in "love at first sight" but not the way most people think of it as. When I met my (now) husband, I felt drawn to him. It wasn't instant love, but it was an instant connection.
The first time I experienced love at first sight was the second they handed me my first-born daughter. It was INSTANT love, like nothing I'd ever experienced. I was lucky enough to have it happen again with my second daughter. It's a love that grabbed me by the heart and made it explode.
So...while I don't believe in the "love at first sight" the way most people think of it as, I know it can happen.
My husband and I have gone to the same school since 6th grade. I always thought he was cute but it was never like my 12 year old self said, "that's the man I am going to marry." There were a lot of things that happened that led up to us starting to date as well. I do believe that God brings people together at various stages (some people know right away, others know after dating, some take longer). Once you know you've found the one as cliche as it sounds you really do know. My husband and I each others perfect match and I am so grateful for that! :)
1.) No I do not believe in love at first sight. I believe you can feel attracted to someone physically at first sight, be interested. But love? Love takes time to develop, knowing what is deep down on the inside. I think people who believe in love at first sight and confusing it love with lust.
2.) I'm not sure. I believe I only have one person, and I was lucky enough to find him. 8)
I agreee with you 100% When I met my husband I wasn't attracted to him, then a couple of years later we became friends through church and that is when I really got to know him and love him. I also think that there is more than one person out there that can make you happy, but it is not the same as the happiness that I feel with my husband.
I wouldn't say that there is love on the first sight, because love has to grow. I would say that there are people that really attract you and maybe after getting to know these people this can turn into love.
There is one guy out there that I feel madly attracted to since the first time I saw him. That was 2 years ago and although I've never spoken a word with him, this guy is in the back of my head since then. Still, I wouldn't say I'm in love with him because I don't KNOW him.
I also don't believe that there is only ONE person out there for everyone. That thought even scares me because it makes me ask myself whether I let my perfect match go.
I sometimes wish there was love at first sight. It would make finding "the one" easier. But I think with most relationships you need to work your way up to the point of knowing he's "the one." If it's more difficult, than you will be absolutely certain he is it. Just my idea from a single girls point of view =)
Hmmm...love at first sight. Not really.
However, the first time I saw my husband from a distance, I wondered what it would be like to marry him and when we met for the first time, he knew he was going to marry me. He said it was weird to him because he didn't even know me. It wasn't love at first sight, just the spirit telling him I was the one he would marry. He didn't jump in and ask me out or anything, in fact, I had to ask him on our first couple of dates. Were we in love at first sight? No way, but there was interest there.
As for the other question. Is there only one person for each of us? No. Sure, it's romantic to think there is, but I think that wouldn't be very realistic. Do I think there is a person who might be a best match? Yes. I also think that best matches might vary depending on your time of life. If I had met D when we were both in high school, we probably would not have been a match because we were so different then. But for the time in life that we met, he was my perfect match. I also believe that once you have found that match, it doesn't matter how many other people you might have been happy or compatible with because you make that commitment to stay together and there is no more room for what-ifs or for looking for a different match. So while I don't think there is one absolute person for each of us, I believe that once we have found someone and married them, they become that one and only and it no longer matters that there could have been anyone else.
I don't know if I believe in "love at first sight" per say but I knew the moment I saw Dustyn there was something special there. From our very first date I knew we would always be together. I just knew and it only took us two weeks to decide that we were perfect for each other. 6 years later, we are still perfect for each other.
I do believe that there are others that I could have been happy with. I don't think there is just one person that is right for you. I do however think that you can be happier with some more than others.
I can't even imagine being happier. Dustyn really is my perfect match. Maybe it was love at first sight.
Totally, totally, no. I don't think there's only one person out there for everyone. Let's take, for example, my father-in-law. My mother-in-law died in 2007. My father-in-law was totally in love with my mother-in-law, but he remarried this past May, and he's totally in love with his new wife. There's just no way to say, cut and dry, there's only one person out there for you. I mean, there are just way too many "exclusions" to that rule for it to even apply.
Besides, as an individual, you grow and change so much as you go through life that it'd be impossible to perfectly match your personality with only one person. Does that make sense?
As for love at first sight? I dunno. I'm gonna have to say no. But that's just cuz I didn't ever experience that. I mean, when I first started dating my husband, I asked my roommate how long I had to date him before I could break up with him. (Ouch, right?) So, for me? Love at first sight? Naw.
1. I deffenetly believe in love at first sight. But sometimes people can fall in and out of love.
2. I do not think that there is only 1 right person out there for everyone. I believe that you can truly be happy with a lot of people. However once you get married to a person they are the right one for you.
Nope, I don't believe in love at first sight (except for the sweet way Jennifer described it!), but there can be immediate attraction, such as with Kris Face and me! :)
I don't believe there is just one right person out there for everyone. What if that one right person got hit by a truck? That would be sooo tragic! Heavenly Father loves us very much, and I don't believe He would limit our chances for happiness in such a way as that! :)
I believe that people can have a certain type of love at first sight. I have never fallen head-over-heels with someone at first sight but I have definitely felt connected to people at first sight.
That's what happened with me and my missionary. He and I went to WW together and we were interested but not in love until way later.
As for the second question. I don't think Heavenly Father would only put ONE person on earth for us all to find and be happy together. Because what about the agency of the other person? It's gone if he/she is the ONLY one for you to marry. So yes I believe that there are more potential people for you in the world but whomever you marry has to be the one for you to be truly happy and know that it's right ;)
Whoa, these are some brain-teasing questions. I will do my best to answer them.
1. I do believe that someone can be attracted to someone very intensely at first sight, and that it may lead to love. But love is not just physical attraction -- it runs much deeper than that.
2. This is a hard question. I believe this: we are destined to meet certain people on this fabulous journey called life. Sometimes one person stands out among the rest. Call it your soul-mate, call it whatever you want. But God moves in mysterious ways -- sometimes that one person is not meant to be in your life forever. Does that mean you get your one chance at meeting the right person, and should the right person die or leave, that's it? Game Over? I don't think so. Like I said, God moves in mysterious ways. We have to trust that our life is in His hands.
When I met Ricky, I thought he was rude. He thought I was stuck-up, lol. It was definitely not love at first sight! It took us really talking to each other to discover there was something there. I know God placed him in my life for a reason. He is the yang to my yin, my perfect match.
I love this post, Lauren. Thanks for letting me reminisce. :)
1. Love at first sight is myth. End of story. That my friends, is lust.
2. I firmly believe that there are multiple people that I could be happy with. I read a quote once saying that any two people actively living the gospel of Jesus Christ can make a marriage work, and I know that to be true. However, you do need common goals, interests, etc. Personally, I think it's just a matter of each individual working hard at the relationship.
I love what Jennifer said about love at first sight with her daughter. I felt the same way with my daughter. It is a true and powerful love when you have children and almost indescribable.
I don't believe in love at first sight when looking for a spouse. I think the love at first site thing with this is all about physical attraction. But I do believe the spirit will sometimes lead us to people.
I'd like to believe and imagine that my husband I are the only right ones for each other and were destined to be together but I know this isn't completely true. I'm sure there are others out there who I would be compatible with (there are lots of people in this world!) But I can't imagine myself with anyone else or would want to be.
Def believe that the Lord brought my hubby and I together. I wasn't attracted to him, kinda swore of boys for a while, but everything he did/did not do, opened up my heart to him...and i'm pretty stubborn. i'm glad i'm not in control of my life!
I definitely believe in love at first sight! My great-grandparents have a story, my aunt and uncle, my parents. Even I just knew that the guy opening the door for me at the apartment complex was going to be something pretty special. We have been together for 7 years and married for 2 - and couldn't be more meant for each other!
How do I know we are meant for each other? We are both firmly against cruelty to stuffed animals and abhor the idea of the little guys suffering, pressed against the windows of peoples' sedans. And this is a belief we each came to seperately. Must be somethin' special!
1) yes.
2) YES.
Your mom should sew ME a dress.
I had a situmacation almost the same as Lo the Unicorn. Weird!
Anyways, I totally DO NOT believe in love at first sight. I believe in lust and infatuation at first sight, but love grows.
So maybe a seed of love at first sight?
after being with my eX and things moving rly fast, rushing now scares the begeezes out of me! bc i was burned by the lightning.
I think there are multiple ppl for everyone.
I do believe in love at first SITE though- like how i love your blog!
1. It can happen, but it's not necessarily love.
2. Well, I do know that because I made decisions solely based on faith that didn't make a lot of sense and didn't seem initially like they mattered either way, I found Brian. I don't think things would have worked out the same way had I not made the decisions I did. Believe you me, God works in mysterious ways. Someday I'll tell you about it. Maybe.
So I guess I was trying to say that it was just supposed to work out for Brian and I. He is my matching puzzle piece.
First my Fi is 1" taller too! Flats are my BFF too...
No I don't believe in "love at first site" because (and this will answer ?#2) I believe that God made each person only 1/2 of a person...and that the other 1/2 is out there somewhere.
It just so happens that we grew up in the same town, and somehow knew the same people, but never met until years later. He was friends with my BFF#1 before I met him, and my BFF#2 went to grade school with me and then Jr. High with Andy. BFF#1 was the reason we got together.
I had dated before and loved 2 of them, but with Andy I feel complete...like I have found my other 1/2.
He also puts up with my Twilight and Harry Potter obsession...so he's a keeper!
I don't believe in love at first sight, but yes I do believe that you could be instantly attracted to one another (physically and emotionally) and then it could very quickly lead into a rich and rewarding love.
I think that Hollywood's version of love is so messed up. We've been conditioned to believe that if it's not magic and fireworks from the first moment you see someone until the moment you die, then it's not true love. That is so messed up! With effort and mutual respect for each other, love builds and deepens over time into something rich and so fulfilling.
We've been married for 12 1/2 years. As in love as we were back in '96, our love has strengthened and grown into something that I could not have imagined even then. I'm thankful that I didn't have that fairytale image of love in my head. Does what I'm saying make any sense?
I also don't believe in a "soulmate" that you're destined to meet. I remember asking my seminary teacher about this once, and he told me that any two people could be "soulmates" if they made and kept their covenants, and worked every day to make their spouses life a little better.
However, I do believe that the Lord guides us to places and people (as in your case) in order for us to make choices that would be best for us.
Thanks for the shout out. :o)
on to the questions:
1. Love at first sight? I don't know if it's "love" per say...but there is something. When I first saw my hubby I was instantly drawn to him...more than just attraction. My first words out of my mouth when he walked in the door were "I love him" and I just started laughing because it came out of nowhere. Then we didn't hit it off and went our seperate ways. 1 year later he called out of the blue and we've been together ever since. We celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary in 2 weeks.
2. No. I don't believe he is the only person I could be happy with. But I know he is the only one I WANT to be happy with. Does that make any sense? He makes me the happiest I've ever been. Through good times and bad...he's the one I want at my side. We fit together so well I couldn't imagine it anyother way.
I guess I'm pretty much of the same school of thought as you.
I think "love at first sight" is not love at all. It is lust. Or attraction. But love? I don't think anybody could truly love me unless they knew my mind and soul. And I'm sorry but I just don't think they could know me like that from my looks. So I think if someone told me they "loved me at first sight" I'd think they had the hots for me but it needs to go deeper and that needs to be built over time spent together.
As for "the right one", yes I think there is a right person for me. But I don't think there is just one. I guess it's like you said...I think I have many chances in life of being happy, but I think there may be some men out there who will make me happier than others and maybe one in particular who could be the best of all. But I don't think I'm doomed if I don't meet up with that ONE right guy. That idea would be too depressing. However, I do trust God will lead me to who I'm meant to be with--and hey, maybe he won't be the perfect compatible choice but maybe he'll be the person who fits me best and will help me grow (and vice versa). Only God and Jesus are perfect so I'll settle for perfect for me.
Thanks for giving me food for thought today. :)
I'm sure there are people who fall in love at first sight- but it was 2nd sight for me. I knew I really liked Tony the first time I saw him, there was such a stong connection. I wasn't POSITIVE though that things would end in marriage. I did, however, know I would MARRY him after our second time hanging out. Crazy fast- but that's how it happened.
There are a lot of people you could make it work with... but Heavenly Father knows what's best for us. Marriage is a forever commitment- and the one of the deepest relationships, so the Lord cares that we choose wisely. With His help, we can be sure that someone is perfect for us. It's pretty simple.
*Props to Nancy on the amazing dress!
Love at first sight? Not so much - Lust? Definitely. Me and my better half joke that ours is a story of a one night stand went awry. (probably TMI for you?!) Next month we celebrate 5 years of togetherness. Through all the trials and tribulations - we are still together. So, now - yes, I love him. ;)
SO firstly I figure its about time I comment on your blog. I've been reading for a while but never felt the itch to say anything. Secondly I graduated from WW the same year as your brother so its funny to read about your experiences in my town in places I've never heard of or been to. And I've lived here my whole life! Anyways...
1. No I don't believe in love at first sight. I think its more lust or some form of attraction (not just physical but intellectual). I think that love happens when you've gotten to know someone, its something that grows.
2. I don't think there is just one right person for everyone out there. I think we have lots of soul mates, not just one that we marry. These are people who come into your life and effect it in someway, maybe without you ever realizing it. They make you think, or open up your heart, or just provide some comfort during hard times. And sometimes they stay forever and sometimes it may be brief.
Anyways, I love your blog!
When I first met my husband I was in a group playing "Catch Phrase". I was immediately drawn to him. I'm not the kind of girl to become head over heels about some guy I don't even know, but for some reason I told my parents and my friends all about him, and we hadn't even talked yet! I think some people just know when someone works for them, but I wouldn't call it LOVE. Love is something that takes time. I had a seminary teacher once say that even when you get married you still don't even know what love is yet. Love is enduring together, laughing together, learning and growing together, and I'm quite sure someone can't do that at first sight :)
My mom always says that two righteous people can make a life together and be happy if they do what it takes to make it work. So yes, there are many people I COULD have married, but I didn't. Heavenly Father knew I needed Nick and that Nick needed me. There are so many things I am learning from him. I'm so grateful that I chose him and no one else. when it's right it's right
like many have already said.. it's called LUST at first sight. You can't be in love with someone you don't know. If you are, that is called stalking... haha jkjk
there isn't one right person for everyone, i don't think. just because if there was, then we wouldn't have our agency. I think it's more of there are many right people, but who will make you the happiest with the things you have chosen and once you two are together, that's it. there isn't anyone else. EXCEPT for if your spouse dies, that is why some people can get remarried, because there are many-a-different people for everyone.
well I can say THIS: my relationship with my husband didn't begin with a cliche... Attraction, yes. LOVE, no. AND I actually thought [for the first couple months of dating him] that there was someone else out on a mission that was THE ONE for me. Lucky for me, Stu was persistant and I finally came to admit my love for him. We always worked well together and "got" each other, i just didnt want to see it just then... Eventually, I realized that he was my match, no one else could compare. (like you said, we just "fit") So, what I'm trying to get at is:
#1: No, I do not believe in love at first sight.
#2: Basically I think that any man and woman can make a relationship work as long as they have the same goals and work together. BUT I believe that the wonderful man I married is right for me, a better match than anyone else could be. He makes me happier than anyone ever. The end.
oh, gawsh. this is hard for me. i'm going to try to condense all that's running through my mind into a coherent paragraph thingy :)
1st. Lauren, i love this. props to Alice for the amazing and thought-provoking question!
2nd. Jennifer, i adore your description of love at first sight.
3rd. *here is where it all comes tumbling down* i don't know how to start. i guess i'll begin by saying that i'm a romantic. never let anyone tell you that i'm cold-hearted or practical when it comes to love - it's a lie. still, i've read all the comments so far and i have to agree that love at first sight is very rare indeed, if it exists at all. however, i don't think that it's impossible to know who you're going to marry shortly after meeting them. case in point: my parents met on a Thursday and knew they were meant for eachother by the Sunday. yes, cases like that are few and far-between. and no, i don't think it's possible to know simply by looking at someone that you're going to spend the rest of your life with them. that said, i'm living, breathing proof that you don't necessarily have to spend a long time building a relationship before you know that you've met your future husband/wife. i'm not suggesting that you immediately love the person, because that doesn't make sense. you still have to spend time getting to know more about the person, confirming your values and such. *my parents wrote letters to one another across the sea...how cute :)* but i still believe it's possible to be certain that you're going to marry someone. *shrugs* like i said, i'm a romantic!
i'm sure you've noticed that i'm contradicting myself a bit, and i hope that's okay. love isn't something you can easily describe or label or confine to a box. it will always surprise you. and in all that i'm saying, i can't really be sure because i've never been in love to begin with. so, moot point :)
when it comes to soul-mates, i try not to think about it too much. i'd like to believe that the man i marry one day will be the perfect match for me, but i'm not so sure that there is such a thing. on one hand, i love the idea of having just one someone for me, and me being someone's only one. (terribly romantic, don't you think?) but on the other hand, my family has good friends with the most amazing stories. one of my mom's really close friends, Paris, and her husband Doug were previously both married to other people, with children and love to spare. then Paris' first husband, who was a soldier, died at war. Doug's wife died of cancer. and the two met. and fell in love, and got married. (this was many years ago, by the way.) all their children are now grown and married. but the story doesn't end there. Paris' son Richard was married to the most amazing woman, Gail, and they had a little baby boy named Zak. (i love Zak long time.) when Zak was about 1, his mom had an aneurysm and died. it was devastating. they'd been living in England, so Richard moved back to South Africa with Zak. he lived about 2 hrs away from us, and went to his old church. there, he met Ruth. and yes, i know it doesn't sound possible, but they fell in love. they're now married and have a second son together. so all in all, i think there's definitely more than one person out there. anyway, i'm just a little teenager, so you'll have to forgive me for all of my confused opinions :)
#1 Love at first sight, hm maybe. Honestly you can have a chemistry that just clicks, but I guess that isn't love.
#2 I don't believe that there is only one person for you. No such thing as soul mates, either. I can't remember but an apostle said one time, i believe it was Elder Oaks. That if two people are completely living the Gospel then they will have a good marriage. I think that soul mates is so commercialized and LDS classics like "Saturday's Warriors" glamourized it.
I almost forgot, I do believe in TIMING. Like me and Stu, despite the fact that we attended the same schools (high school and college), had so many mutual friends, and can list multiple events from the past where we were at the same parties or events, we didn't meet each other until a year and a half ago, RIGHT after I told mr missionary that I would be writing less frequently.
I know Heavenly Father watches out for us, and we end up with who we need to be with so that we can learn the most in this life.
I'd have to say that I don't believe in "love" at first sight persay, but I do believe in some kind of "warm fuzzy interested feeling" at first sight if you know what I mean...
As for "soul-mates." I remember reading about this back in prep for celestial marriage. One quote talked about how there are most likely several companions out there that could be compatilble if both people were striving towards the same goals (gospel, family etc.). I think of women who were widowed and then remarried. They found love more than once with two seperate people and thank goodness for that. Each love might be different but it's still love. Hope that makes sense:)
1. i don't think so. i think there may be an instant attraction, but not love. true love [in my own humble opinion] takes time. and work.
2. this is a toughie. i think there is more than one person that can make you happy. but i also think we have to trust God to put the puzzle pieces together the right way.
just thinking that there is only one person truly for me in the massive world scares me. what if i don't find him? what if something happens and it gets messed up? what if, what if, what if. i'm trusting God. and trying not to stress in the meantime. because if i've met The One, i'm oblivious to that fact.
I think love at first sight can happen, however there is not one person for everyone, a lot of different people can give you what you want I think.
Oh, I commented already, but I was thinking more about this and have one more thing to add:
How could there be only one person for us to be with when Heavenly Father gave us agency to make decisions? If there's only one person meant for you, doesn't that totally take away your agency in that regard?
I'm just sayin'.
I don't think there is such thing as love at first sight...well for some people maybe but not for myself. But I definately believe in love at 4th sight because Dano & I were in love by then and planning our wedding hahaha... some things happen quicker for some people....didn't think i was one of those people but i guess I am!
Shoot ! I would have been # 10 but my dumb computer froze...! I'm back now.
"No" on love at first sight. I believe real love takes more than just seeing someone. It is developed over time and experience.
Having said that, my Dad said that on the night he met my mother he knew he would marry her. I do believe in powerful first impressions and attractions. If she impressed him so much that he made up his mind he wanted her he just had to make sure it happened! I think that's what happens with most people who had a"love at first sight" feeling.
I believe some people are M.F.E.O. like you and Tedward, and me and my sweetie, but I think we would have been happy with someone else if our current loves had not materialized in our lives.
Life IS what you make it!
I don't believe in love at first sight. Never have, never will.
BUT... when it comes to having there be 'soul mates' or 'the one'.... people think my opinion of the matter is off.
I believe every person has multiple 'soul mates'. Now, I don't mean multiple people they're meant to marry. I feel that each person is meant to meet certain people in their lives and those certain people will have an effect on their lives that was meant to be there. I have a few people in my life who I was very close with or loved that I no longer see or speak to for one reason or the other. But I still think they were some of my 'soul mates' because the experiences I had with them, the lessons I learned, made me become the person I am today and have left me with many memories. I do think there are specific 'soul mates/the one' for each person in the romantic sense but I think there are many others for other portions of our lives. :)
Hello Lauren,
This is my first time commenting, but I've read several of your entries here and at "Lauren Bites" over the past few days. I think I'm in love! ;) I've already linked you on my blog and even mentioned your sites in one of my posts. (Our layouts are eerily similar by the way. :P) You have a wonderful sense of humor, and your posts are seriously such a pleasure for me to read. I especially love your fashion-related posts because I too prefer to dress modestly. It's nice to know that with the right accessories, a girl can be fashionable and modest! ;) Last but not least (and this should go without saying) I absolutely *adore* Pocket Edward.)
As for your debate questions, here are my answers:
1.) I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe you can be attracted to someone physically at first sight, but you can't be attracted to their personality at first sight. If you do end up falling in love with someone that you were immediately attracted to, I would consider that to be a coincidence rather than an example of love at first sight. Love isn't having butterflies in your stomach. Love is trusting someone and loving them unconditionally, despite their flaws, and that is something that can only be developed over time.
2.) I don't believe there is only one right person out there for everyone because that would mean that without that person in your life, you wouldn't be able to reach your fullest potential. What if that person, for whatever reason, was no longer in your life? Would that mean that you could never be that happy again? In my opinion, believing this creates a certain "dependency" (i.e., you're dependent on them for your happiness) on the other person that is unhealthy.
1- I think anything is possible!
If someone belives it.. who am I to judge and say no way!
2- I agree with your Mom.. it would be so sad if their was just "one" person....
Wow. What a question!
I myself have never been in love or anywhere close to it.
Love at first sight - I don't think so. I believe that might be so captivated with another person that it seems like love at first sight.
As for only one person? Probably not. I think for some people there might be, but like a lot of people I don't believe that there is just one person that I am meant to be with.
No, I don't believe in love at first site. That's what guys get hit for all the time, physical attraction. If that was the case many men would be "in love" with every supermodel gracing the cover of a magazine.
Is there only one person for you? No, why would people re-marry or be widowed and re-marry. Simple laws of average would say that there are plenty of suitable "mates" for you. A successful relationship is a combination of shared experiences from childhood, complementary skill sets and commitment.
Is there one person God "has" for you? Hmmm, look at scripture. Jacob works for Laban of for 7 years to get Rachel, but gets her sister, Leah. Then he works another 7 years to get Rachel. If Rachel had died in the first 7 years he would have still had Leah. Would he have loved her as much? Probably not. But was Rachel "THE" one for him.
You may have only dated one guy in your life, but there are probably many other guys you could have had a successful relationship with. You'll never know because you may not have dated them. Remember - shared experiences, complimentary skill set and commitment.
Point is, God gives you the freedom to choose, because he's a loving God who lets you have a choice.
We are all entitled to our own beliefs, so I really don't care if mine are different from all of you, or sounds strange.
I believe there are NO COINCIDENCES. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes it takes a long time to understand those reasons.
I was with a very,very wrong person for me, and deep down I've always knew it, but I think it happened that way so I could learn how to be strong, mentally. Lessons learned.
Now I believe I have my soulmate. Our compatibility is so alike its crazy. Almost telepathic. Seriously. I feel like we were together before, either in a previous life, or in heaven before we were born, and brought into this life to find each other again. Even being 2,000 miles apart, we found each other.
Once I knew in my heart and soul I found that person.."soulmate" I knew that he was the ONLY person for me for eternity and beyond. We were made for eachother, and destined to find eachother. No one else. The end.
Love all these debate questions. First of all, I hope that you weren't mad about my wicked comment on my blog...I love you even though you don't love wicked! I also love that you are putting shabby apple on your blog...when I have money someday i will get some of their dresses!
AND, I think for some people love at first sight is their kind of thing.
I also think that some people are waiting around for it, and they are missing a lot of chances for love.
Me personally. Love came over time, and work. Spencer was not what I was attracted to at first, but over time I realized he is what I wanted for a husband. He isn't crazy, and funny like I usally liked...but he is kind, and loving. Makes for a great marriage!
Love all these debate questions. First of all, I hope that you weren't mad about my wicked comment on my blog...I love you even though you don't love wicked! I also love that you are putting shabby apple on your blog...when I have money someday i will get some of their dresses!
AND, I think for some people love at first sight is their kind of thing.
I also think that some people are waiting around for it, and they are missing a lot of chances for love.
Me personally. Love came over time, and work. Spencer was not what I was attracted to at first, but over time I realized he is what I wanted for a husband. He isn't crazy, and funny like I usally liked...but he is kind, and loving. Makes for a great marriage!
1. Sorta...
The first time I met my fiance, we were both dating other people and not looking. After that, we just ran into each other random places on campus. However, when we actually "met" and got a chance to talk, we were both head over heels right away. I remember everything about our official meeting, including what a cutie he was walking up to my table. So...sorta.
2. I hope not! I want to be with Jason forever and ever, but I would hate to think that if something happened to him or we had never met, I would be alone forever. :/
Jennifer you are my new best friend. I love how you described it! Although I do not think I fell in LOVE with Zach the first time I saw him I definitely got nervous and sweating palms when he entered the room. Our first date I almost died before he came to get me. I layed on my bedroom floor under the fan sipping water just sick to my stomach. I was SOOOO nervous!! I never was a boyfriend/ commitment type but Zach made me one. The thought of being apart from him for the rest of my life never entered my head. As for my sweet Presley It was definitely love at first sight for the both of us.
Yes I believe in love at first sight, but not for everyone.
It wasn't like that for me and the hubs. We originally dated to have a work out partner because neither one of us wanted a relationship. I had just ended an ugly engagement (stupid dirt bag cheater- actually I am glad. I met Hubs) and he just broke up with a very needy girl.
The rest is history.
In fact I agreed to go out with him because I didn't think he was my type and he was cocky, so I couldn't possible like him. Yeah right! I do believe that the Lord put us in each other's lives.
Twitterpated is an AWESOME word.
1. I believe in interest and attraction at first sight. I think there's a lot more to LOVE than that, though. You've got to really know a person to feel real, trye love. And I'm not saying it'll take a long time - I've known amazing couples who were in love within days (and still are 50 years later). But at "first sight"... nope. Of course, that interest and attraction are pretty important first steps!
2. I do believe there is one perfect person for each of us. And I also believe that there are many people who would make a great life and marriage together, if that one person just isn't available for some reason. Relationships take a lot of work, and if two people love each other and are willing to put in that work it will be great. However, I have to say I'm so grateful I did find that one perfect person for me! Because while it could work with someone else, I just don't think all the work would be nearly as fun with out him! (And we've known each other most of our lives,too, with lots of "Hand of the Lord" moments...)
well, i would have to start out by saying that i am one of those people that believes in love at first sight..have i found it? not yet. well, i thought i did once but it turned out to be the fact that i was really thirsty and he had a vitamin water in his hand, but alas, that is another story for another time. i think that most people these days mistake love at first sight for lust at first sight. i've fallen victim to it, so i know others have. i think that there are many things that make up love at first sight. sometimes it all falls into place, like you said. other times, it can be that the two people hated eachother for trivial reasons, and then once they get to know eachother, love blooms. there is always a backstory, to any great love.
as for if there is one right person for everyone, yes, i do believe that. i also believe that 80% of the time, it's not the person you end up with in the end. i'm not saying it to be a cynic or anything but it's mostly just a misfire of emotions...i guess a mis-read of vibes you would say.
but i can honestly say that i'm holding out for that one person. wasted too much time with the one that i thought was the one and he turned out to be the laaaamest person ever.
**and i saw something about going up the pacific coast highway on laurensbite...make sure that you stop someplace around the southern oregon coast..coos bay, bandon. it's very pretty here and i still think they should of filmed twilight here......at least it would of brought something to this one horse town...
thanks for listening to my rambling. have a great day!
i dont believe in the hypothetical "love at first sight" but when i first met chellis i thought "im going to marry this man" and it was more of a statement/realization. and I did.
and no, i dont believe there is one right person for everyone. i think everyone has their perfect person, their perfect match....but their are alot of matches for one person, maybe not perfect but they're out there. but who needs to look when your married to your perfect match!!
I don't believe in LOVE @ first sight, I do however believe in LUST @ first sight! I don't think that you truly know if a person is someone you can spend ETERNITY with until you get to know them pretty well(AKA:Conversation)! It never hurts to start off with some serious attraction though!
i don't believe in love at first sight. But I do believe in attraction at first sight. But above anything I know that everyone has that perfect match. When I was a sophomore I met a guy that I fell in love with and that I thought I was going to marry. A few months after we started dating we were doing a marriage time capsul in my ward. We had to write down all the qualities we wanted in a husband. When I finished writing my qualities down I realized all of them were qualities of my boyfriend. However, none of them were the qualities I had thought and pondered on since I was a little girl. I realized at that moment that the boy I was with wasn't who I was supposed to marry. So we went our seperate ways and not soon after I met the boy I'm with now. The boy who I call "Mr. Amazing" because not only does he have every quality I had thought of, he has every quality I haven't thought of. He's my perfect match!
I don't believe in love at first sight. That's where the interest starts. Love comes with time and from serving one another. I also think if I hadn't of married my husband, I would have found someone else and I could have been happy with them too. However, I chose to be happy with him. :)
Love at first sight? Absolutely. Case in point: Adam and Eve.
Since then? Not so much. Theoretically I think it could happen, if two people meet at the right time who are compatible, attracted, and are willing to commit. Has it happened to me? No. To anyone I know? No.
As far as #2, I think what you said is best: plenty of other people could make you happy, but there is one person who will make you happier than the rest. :)
1.no. did i love chad at first? heck no. i thought he was a royal jerk. :) i mean hello! he had a crush on like 2 of my best friends while i knew him & i didnt even give him a second look. but i got to know him and found something different. did i want to get to know him senior year because he came back from junior year all muscular?....well shoot me. i too seem to be shallow. i guess its good i am :) haha
2.and i agree with your mom on this one.
oh by the way!! remember when you asked to practice taking pics on the sassy sistas? well, i asked them all the other night cuz we were all together and they TOTALLY want to do it! they were all so excited! sorry it took me so long to reply about that. its just we are never together cuz one is usually off to china or india...or somewhere crazy and one is in texas and the other going to school at byu....crazy.
anyway, what do you think?
1. yes
2. no
I am glad you found Ted. My westwood friends used to say it took 2 Toros to makes a warrior (make the Toro sign on both hands then bring together and cross both pointer fingers if you don't know what I am talking about.) For you guys it takes two warriors to make _____________???????????
1) Love at first sight? Um...I'm not one to quash another person's dreams, but I know that I wouldn't be able to fall in love just by seeing a guy. If it has actually happened for someone out there, more power to ya!
2) Not to be "Debbie Downer" or anything, but I think there's the possibility of more than one person for everyone. I've known people that have been wonderfully happy with their spouse, only to have them taken tragically, and then finding happiness with another person. It would be mighty overwhelming to think that there's only one person in the 6 billion people of the world that is right for you.
I have an opinion about this: Everyone thinks it's more romantic to have soulmates, to believe there is only ONE person each person is meant to be with, that the alternative (many people could make you happy) is sad. But I personally feel that a) the latter is true and b) is actually MORE romantic, because, check it: What's more romantic--being with someone because it was fore-ordained and someone else decided you were meant to be together, or knowing you are with your significant other because THEY chose you out of allllllll the other people in the world, knowing other people could have made them perfectly happy...but THEY chose YOU. Isn't that much more romantic?
I totally heart your mother & agree with what she has to say... always {do I sound like a suck up?}
I've never known anyone to fall in love at first sight, but hubby and I were floating the very first night we met. We talked for 8 hours and I went to bed knowing I would be with him forever ♥
So crazy to think there could ever be anyone else in any other place and time right for me, but I know that if something ever happened to him, I would be able to find love again. Sad for me to think now. Off to snuggle.
Two things:
1) Ted looks like one of the missionaries that taught me (and ended up confirming me :D )
2) read the talk "Finding your sweetheart" by Elder Lynn G.Robbins of the 70--a classic. I found the link:
http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&locale=0&sourceId=80b151e4b66fb010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&vgnextoid=024644f8f206c010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD
He phrases my thoughts much better than I am capable of.
Similar to you...I was not immediately impressed when I first met my husband. We were set up on a blind date. He was a VERY nice guy...but there was no spark...although he was a cutie! So I agreed to go on a second date with him. By our 3rd date, I knew that he was the man I was going to marry. I wouldn't describe it as love at first sight...but like you and The Tedward...we, too, just fit. We spent our entire 2nd and 3rd dates just talking over dinner. No one makes me laugh like my hubby! :) So....
#1. No, I don't believe in love at first sight. That's what lust is!
#2. I believe there is may be one right person for different times in our lives. I dated a great guy in high school and he was perfect for me at the time, but we grew apart as we grew up, and though we are still friends, I could never have loved him the way I love my husband. Nor could he make me as happy as my hubby does! :0) Hope that makes sense!
We are raised in a Disney themed society and I seriously believed in love at first sight when I was little and wanted my prince to find me and make everything better.
1- I believe in infatuation at first sight and after "really" getting to know the person, love either blooms or the relationship dies. Sometimes people get married so fast they get to see the real side of their partner after marriage! eek!
2- I believe you CAN be happy with a number of different people but Michael has been the best match out of all those silly boys. It was a miracle that we even met.
I don't believe in love at first sight....but I do believe that one can fall in love quickly. Clint and I dated for only 2 weeks when he dropped the "L" word! But it just...FELT right. We did NOT rush into a marriage...although we felt that we'd be married someday. We still dated for about 2 years beforehand to make sure that our relationship was strong enough to stand the trials that marriage can bring. :)
oh, and twitterpated is a fantastic word :)
The only thing I believe is that everything happens for a reason... everything in my life is there because it was meant to be.
I do NOT believe in love at first sight! My story goes kind of like yours. I met my husband in 7th grade. He was small and shy and kind of nerdy.(shhh....don't tell I said that) We were friends through high school(he wrestled UNDER 100#'s our junior year) I just could not date a guy I was bigger than. BUT THEN....in college I ran into him again....MMmmmm nice! He had for sure changed! He's now over six foot and is pretty darn buff. I know that sounds shallow but I just had a problem dating someone I could squish!
As for one person for everyone.... I think there is a best match for everyone, someone you may be most compatible with but that may not be the one and only person for you! I kind of agree with mama face-if something happened to that one person...does that mean I would end up a crazy cat lady?! NOPE! not me!
I totally believe in love at first sight. It didn't happen to me but I still believe in it. And definately there is more than one person out there for me. I think as long as they have God, both people are willing to sacrifice for the other, and they have the same common goals for life any two people can make it.
I hands down 100% think that there are individuals that experience love at first sight...even if it isn't 'first sight' maybe it is the 20th encounter but they feel that, and I quote "can't eat, can't sleep,over the stars, world series kind of stuff" magic happens! As for there being just one person for everyone I don't believe it. I believe that we are put in places in our lives to be that 'one' even if we may have felt like we've found that previously. I think I'll stop while I'm somewhat making a lil sense. ;) loves*
NO, I don't beleive in love at first sight, that faze wanes insanely fast. And as for the second one, hmm....I guess there are lots of people in the world that would make me happy, but only one guy that would be perfect with me. And, really, I think if I ever get a boyfriend, he goes out on a mission ( YAY! Good for him! ), then, yes, I might date while he's gone, because him going on his mission and being gone for..how long is it again?...a long time, might be Heavenly Father's way of telling me that he is my Prince Charming ( despite what I think at the time. ).
1) no
2) no
i believe in timing. i believe that there are signs & rights and wrongs and I believe that in the end, we can choose which path to take.
I heart the tedward
I agree with you Bee...that if I hadn't met my Robbie, I could've been happy with someone else - but never this happy. I also believe that Heavenly Father brought us together. Robbie wouldn't have been ready for me say 3 or 4 years earlier. I never believed in love at first sight. When I met Robbie I still didn't believe in it, but it did hit me that sparkly butterfly-ish compatibility at first sight is an amazingly true principle. The minute we saw each other the sparks flew and the butterflies twittered. We knew right there that we wanted to get to know each other better. He asked me out that very night and after a few dates I knew he was the man the Lord wanted me to marry (though it took him slightly longer :)). I fell in love with him in a few short weeks. The day we got married I was way more in love with him than back then. Now that we have a little munchkin, I love him even more than when we were newly married. I know the love is going to grow and grow, as long as we keep it well hydrated.
I don't believe in love at first sight, and I never have. Which makes me sound like a negative person, but if it's at first sight, I believe that the feeling is lust more than anything. But that feeling of lust, if followed up on, can lead to love or can lead something to think that they don't fit, but they're still a pretty face. [:
I do not believe in love at first sight, infatuation maybe love no way. love takes time...unless you are Jacob and imprint then thats a different story but yet again Jacob is a different story.
I do not think there is one person only for us, like many great church leaders say, it is easy to choose from good and bad those choices are simple the choices that are the hardest are choosing better and best. Thats how I feel about making a perfect relationship match. Either way you can make the better be the best or you can pick the best in the beginning.
These are obviously strictly my thoughts.
Lets see... this is a hard one. I don't think I could say I was "in LOVE" with my husband the night I met him...but I definitely knew there was something different about him. I really did think to myself "I'm going to marry this man!" I definitely had to get to know him better before I could say I was in love with him though. As for my sweet baby...It was definitely LOVE at first sight. So I would have to say I do believe in love at first site. :) Also I do not think there is only one right person for everyone. But Deric was definitely the BEST choice for ME!
Twitterpated is on my top ten favorite words list.. that and pendulum and other things..
But any way back to the debate..
I'm not a huge believer in love at first sight. My story is quite similar to yours. I grew up with Dustin.. he used to drive me and my brother to seminary.. we were friends and fell in love.
Some of the guys I thought I fell in love with at first sight.. turned out to be lust at first sight!
reminds me of the quote:
"it was love at first sight, though neither party was aware of the fact..."
-mark twain
this happened to me. i used to call my husband "center of attention boy" before we fell in love. i was convinced i would never like him because he did [indeed] wear his cell phone on his belt. {tacky.}
but, love just accidentally/serendipitously happened & i am so grateful 'cause he's so perfect for me.
could i have been happy with other boys i dated? i really believe i could have. but i have learned & grown in ways with myron that have let me know that marrying him was best for me & my little fam. *can't imagine it any other way.
tender.
here's to true-love! {not at first sight}
No, I don't believe in "love at first sight" but I do believe that there are multiple levels attraction that can be achieved just on sight and being with someone for a short while. You can tell if someone is intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, physically and etc... attractive in such a short time.
As for only person or one man out there for me, maybe. Part of me believes that our bodies know what they are attracted to just as our heart, mind and gut. If our heart, mind, and gut are all saying something different then it isn't genuine or right... Some times I feel like my body was attracted to James before I even realized it. Weird. In my case I would have to say that Heavenly Father truly knew that James and me were supposed to be together and that even though we are far from perfect we are perfect for each other. I don't believe in "soul mates" but I do believe there is at least a couple men per woman that could be physiologically matched well, but at the same time, there is only one person that has managed to be just right for me.
I believe in love at first sight. It always worked for me. But I do NOT believe in soul mates.
I think it was spencer w. kimball or one of the general authorities said that there is no such thing as a soul mate. any man and woman living the gospel to its fullest will be completely happy. but i'm pretty sure you should at least like them or something like that :)
No, I do not believe there is just one "right" person for everyone for a WHOLE lot of reasons.
I don't believe in love at first sight--I believe in attraction at first sight and then you find out all the things you can't see at first sight. Otherwise it's like Ariel in the Little Mermaid who only saw Eric and EMPHATICALLY TOLD HER FATHER, "But, daddy, I LOVE HIM."??????
again, i miss your blog for a couple days, and two knew posts! I
totally believe in love at first sight! i love the disney movies where the princess's fall in love when they first see there prince! it's awesome! i KNOW i fell in love with john the first time i saw him.. ok the second time i saw him. (the first time i saw him was in 4th grade, and i prob wasn't in love, but i did tell people i was going to marry him when i was 10!... so i pretty much knew i was going to love him!) but the first time i saw him again after elementary was my freshman year, and i literally fell head over hills for him! i remember every teeny tiny detail about the first time we hung out! and every other detail up until he went on his mission. i too dated other's while he was gone, i know that was the right thing to do for us. (even tho he might think differently if you asked him) i do think there are other people that you can marry and live happy with. but not as happy as i would be with john! and our kid's wouldn't be half as cute! haha
1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
I don't believe in it. But I don't not believe in it either. If someone told me they fell in love at first sight, I would never dispute that. However, I don't really think it works that way. I don't think you can really love someone right away. You can be interested. But who knows? I know I felt SOMETHING when I first saw my now husband...but I wouldn't say that it was love...although love didn't take that long to find us!
2. Do you believe there is only one right person out there for everyone?
Nope. I'm right with you on this one Lauren. There are plenty of people out there that I could make a happy marriage with. But Jess and I just fit perfectly. And I know I couldn't be THIS happy with anyone else. :)
My first instinct was to say "YES!" because when I saw Sei I knew he was mine. But we actually met online so we'd been chatting, talking, etc... BUT I did know I was gonna marry him BEFORE I talked to him on the phone. So, I think if God thinks you NEED that kind of confirmation from the beginning he gives it to you. I was a single mom looking for my prince, didn't wanna mess around with dating and didn't wanna miss the right guy. He made sure I didn't. I think sometimes there is that ZING that attracts people right away....
I forgot to add... Idk if there is only ONE person for you because I know if I met Sei when I was 19 he would have been a dork that threw water balloons at people and I don't think I would have been attracted. He is most definitely the right person for me now and I was right for him. And if you had a freakin' anonymous button I'd have more to share... but alas... you do not.
I watched Confessions of a Shopaholic last night and I thought it was actually going to be super cheesy and lame, but I surprisingly liked it!! :)
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